Sex in The City: 10 Tips to Date a Cougar

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There are many reasons a Cougar can appeal to you. When I think of a Cougar, Samantha off "Sex in the City" comes to mind, she plays a vivacious, sophisticated woman with a sexual libido that rivals rabbits in spring.

Although her character is fictional who she portrays is not. Women at older ages are more attune with there wants, needs and desires.

While Men's sexual stamina is slowing down, Women's desire for intimacy is coming into full bloom. It seems like the worlds cruel joke to have such a wide gap in the ages of sexual maturity but it true, while guys are thinking about sex in there 20's, women are hitting there peak in their 30's or 40's.

This age gap gives a perfectly logical reason why cougars exist but there are other reasons as well.

Men aren't the only ones that get mid-life crisis. Women want to feel young again too but instead of buying that corvette or going skydiving, they look to a younger generation. There are many appeals to dating young. Most younger men don't have any strings attached, a youthful personality, and are more willing to try new things.
Revenge can also be a reason; don't be surprised if your new cougar is recently divorced, like recently divorced professional wrestler Hulk Hogan. When word got out that Hulk Hogan had found a girlfriend that could pass as his daughter it wasn't long after ex-wife Linda Hogan had found a 19 year-old boy toy of her own.

So what are the best tips for getting and keeping a cougar?

1. Treat Her Like A Queen -
Treat any women like a queen and she will be flattered and curious. Pay her compliments, open doors for her, notice the details. Did she get her nails done? Tell her you love the color.

2. Don't Ever Tell Her She is a Cougar -
It's another double standard term label put on women that can be offensive. When men go after younger women its ok, but when a women does it, watch out! She's a "cougar".

3. Move to the City -
Places like California and New York see Cougar Dating as the newest hot trend. Think Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher, a very hot couple.

4. Don't Make Her Feel Old -
Just like the feeling you get when a waiter ask you for an ID when buying alcohol you want to replicate that feeling again and again. But don't be fake about it, like saying she looks like Cindy Crawford if she doesn't. Tell her you love how smart she is, or how amazing her legs look in those jeans.

5. Dating Sites -
These are exceptional places to find Cougar Dates, browse for your cougar in comfort of your house and let them come to you.

6. Give Her New Experiences -
Most women are looking to do things they never did when they were younger, whether that is shooting pool at the billiard, going to a concert, or playing mini golf with friends.

7. Don't be to Needy -
Older women are independent and don't want a guy controlling there life.

8. Make her Feel Young but no too Young -
Beer Binging and Halo War parties are out of the question. She doesn't want to feel like she stole you from the crib.

9. Let Her Rule the Bedroom -
She is probably way more experienced in this department, let her show you what she knows and what she likes.

10. Same Expectations -
Make sure you are both on the same page before getting into a deep relationship. Is she looking for a casual relationship or long-term. This is important to know so you're both not wasting your time.

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Sex in The City: Should Women Ask Men Out on a Date?

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There is a lot of debate about whether women should ask men out. As a modern woman, it may seem trendy and cool to have the ability to ask a guy out on a date, but before you choose to reprise the role of Carrie from 'Sex in the City', you must consider your main objective for dating. Are you interested in something more casual or do you really want a more serious, committed relationship?

Although many men say they wouldn't mind it if a woman asked them out, it's really about understanding how a man perceives a woman who asks him out. He may be flattered, but the majority of men see women who ask them out as desperate, easy and probably interested in just a sexual relationship. So unless you are just looking for a fling, you'll want the man to pursue you.

A man, who is truly interested in you, will work up the nerve to ask you out. Besides, why on earth would a woman who is considering a man as a potential mate, want a man who isn't interested enough in her to ask her out? It also puts the women in a position of power when the man seeks her out.

Many woman today too often acquiesce their power in a relationship. I'm not talking about controlling the man here. But let's face it, no one likes to feel as though their being controlled or manipulated (Not to mention that this type of behavior typically backfires in the long run). I'm talking about controlling the process, not the man. Date men who want to date you. That said, if you want to know how to get the man to notice you and want to desire you enough to do the asking, 'Make Every Man Want You' gives great advice on how to flirt effectively.

I also just finished reading the new book by Steve Harvey, 'Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man' and it gives a lot of good advice about how women should establish themselves with men if they are interested in establishing a long term relationship. The 90 day rule is really a good way to weed out men who are just interested in "hooking up."

Woman can also use this period to date more than one guy. (MEN ARE DATING MORE THAN ONE WOMAN DURING THIS PERIOD, WHY SHOULDN'T YOU DATE MORE THAN JUST ONE MAN) Keep in mind that dating is not synonymous with having sex. You can date more than one guy at any given time and not have sex with any of them. Also, dating more than one guy during the beginning of the dating process will keep you from becoming fixated on one guy and projecting unrealistic expectations on to him in order to make him into what you want. If he is interested in a more exclusive relationship with you, he'll let his intentions be known. To learn more about how to effectively implement this strategy, I highly recommend Diana Kirschner's 'Love in 90 Days'

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Sex in The City: Reflections on Women's Roles

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The other day I heard from a woman who was fired from her management track job for having a close friendship (not yet an affair) with a male colleague. From what I can tell the man was not fired.

Which got me on my soapbox again...My partner was surprised that that kind of dismissal would happen in this day and age. I told him that women are often treated badly and unequally in business out there in the corporate world, (as opposed to our little self-employed, protected non-corporate world of friends here).

Then I began reading the Women in Hollywood blog. First the writer mentioned how some great women's shows are being axed for next year (Men in Trees, one of my favs). On another WIH blog, Kristen Davis, one of the stars of Sex in the City addressed the eternal question of whether the four women get along or hate each other. Kristen's very smart point was that these questions were sexist and that people didn't repeatedly question the Sopranos stars in that way. Opening of Sex in the City in London

Still on WIH blog, Jennifer Fox, writer, producer and subject of Flying, a six-part series on Sundance takes the position that women without children aren't perceived as real women in our society. She says: "We define women as being married mothers actually". I think she has a valid point. Our culture often perceives child-free women as somehow different...lacking...selfish..oh, I don't know...But not complete.

And then of course there's the invisibility angle - the idea that women over a certain age (~45) just aren't noticed - it's like they're not even there. That's why two Australian women, who go by the names Loris and Lucy, began their eclectic blog for midlife women.

It pains me that this is happening in this day and age. We only have to look at Hilary Clinton and the ongoing "damned if she does, damned if she doesn't" criticisms of her and her campaign to see that we're a far cry from equality as yet.

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